Thank you for this piece. Your situation is so similar to mine... except that I live in a more liberal-leaning/accepting community. I'm 71. Returned to my home state of Oregon in 2012, to be of assistance to my parents, then in their mid-80s. (I moved my parents to assisted living nearly two years ago. My father passed last month. My mother has Alzheimer's. Until a bed in a safe memory care facility opens up, someone has to be with her 24/7 to prevent her from wandering off... and, for the most part, that responsibility falls on yours truly.) That responsibility leaves me trapped, with little or no life of my own. But, still, there is no public gay community in this county. Pretty much all the LGBTQ folks around here are partnered up and domesticated. So, like you, I find myself starved for queer community. Living in isolation can get extremely lonely and enervating. And, there's always the possibility that my depression will sneak up and inject me with its poison. Fortunately, I found HOW (Husbands Out to Wives — I'm bi, divorced, and in a mixed-orientation, long-distance relationship). ZOOM meetings with my HOW brothers have been my lifeline. Interacting with empathetic men is critical to my mental and emotional well being.