So true... but that false belief is just as often pervaded by gay men. I have long identified as bi, because I am equally attracted to males and females, and have only been sexually intimate with cis males and females.

Still, I can't count the number of times I've heard a version of this from a gay man... "Rand, you're gay. You just haven't admitted it to yourself yet."

You know what they say... "Bi now. Gay later." Many gay men hate bi men because they've gotten hurt by a bi man who can't or won't commit, or who just cruises for same-sex sex, then scoots on back to his little wifey (I did that for years. Shame on me! Still, I was always very careful not to give the false impression that I was ready for or even interested in an emotional relationship with another man.)

Straight women are reticent to get involved with a bi man, not necessarily because they fear that he will ultimately "choose" to be gay, but because they don't want to share the person they love with anyone else. And, because they know they can't compete with someone who was born with different body parts. I can understand and empathize with that.

Bisexuals (particularly bisexual men) are a misunderstood bunch, by straight folks and gay folks alike. I'm surprised "B" is still part of the LGBT, etc. acronym. And, that's why I now identify as queer. It saves me a whole lotta grief.

Thanks for sharing your story. I wish you every happiness and fulfillment in your journey of self discovery and self revelation. Peace.