I don't know whether you're aware of HOW (Husbands Out to Wives). It's a support group of over 1,000 men who are embroiled, or have been through similar circumstances. The brotherhood has been a life saver for me and many others. In fact, I'm on my way to the annual HOW gathering on Thursday (this year, it's in Kansas City.) Anyway, I highly recommend that you look into HOW. Hugs.