Firstly, thank you for this self-reflection and perspective from a trans POV. Your words are instructive for a cis bi man.

Sexual attraction is such a personal experience and a complex one at that. It’s more about physical and emotional chemistry than it is about identity and/or body parts. I’ve made the mistake of saying that I’m only into cis men or women, which hurt some feelings and caused some acrimony. I won’t make that mistake again.

Still, if a gay man isn’t into another gay man, he’s not accused of being homophobic, any more than when straight folks don’t find one another attractive are they categorized as biased or phobic in some way. So, I do think there is a hyper sensitivity about this with some trans people. (I hope that doesn’t reflect a lack of compassion.)

It is helpful to be aware that phalloplasty has become so advanced. That opens up a world of new possibilities for guys like me.

Anyway, I think everyone has innate bias as well as personal preference, whether they admit it or not. It’s far better to acknowledge our flaws and work towards being more accepting and loving rather than judging, condemning, and rejecting one another. Meanwhile, I will try to use more sensitive language in the future as to not make an already sensitive situation more fraught. Peace.