Do you not think you might be a bit too harsh on well-meaning allies? These are people who care, who genuinely fear for what could happen to you and others. They simply don’t know how to feel, or how to express their concern.

Maybe saying “I’m going to live my life as joyfully and positively as I can,” might be more constructive and helpful. Then, follow up with, “If you’d like to know how you can really be of help and support, just ask. I’d be more than happy to fill you in.”

Certainly, you shouldn’t be expected to put on a performance of grief and fearfulness. Your ability to demonstrate joy in the moment is admirable and can provide a valuable lesson to others without saying a word. But, it might be a better strategy to accept allyship wherever and however it appears. We need to stick together. There are some very rough passages ahead. Peace.