But, do they really need an explanation as much as you or I need to be seen for our true selves? For me, the more out I am to more and more people, the less comfortable I am with people who remain unaware of my sexual orientation — for whatever reason. In fact, it’s because coming out is less fraught and stigmatizing than it used to be that it’s become more of a constant dilemma as to who really needs to know and how and when to bring the subject up. If’n ya know what I mean.